Happy September! Can you believe it's September already??? Remember how as a child, the school year would take forever to end, or Christmas would never get here?? Now, as a thirty-something parent, time flies so fast, it seems months are gone in the blink of an eye.... and I'm still trying to get things done from last month's agenda.
Whew! Let me stop and take a breather.
You ever wonder why we feel so compelled to rush around all the time? I think it's an American thing. We try to cram as much as we can into a single day so we can finish and have a few precious minutes of personal time..... maybe to watch some TV, or read, or if you're like me, write.
I haven't written all summer. But that's okay, because I've had a full plate and I just finished a story in April so I won't be too hard on myself. But I digress ...
The problem with patience is that I don't have enough of it. I've never been patient with anything. Major character flaw here. But I have learned some patience, and if nothing else, parenthood has taught me how to be more patient. Have you ever heard that saying, "Don't pray for patience because you'll get it." Meaning, we'll find ourselves in situations where our patience is tested and those situations pretty much suck..... but you'll learn patience from it.
Yeah whatever. Learn, shmern.
I hate being patient.
Yet, without it, life is too frustrating. Crafting a story takes patience... and all too soon I want to send it off for feedback, when what it needs is weeks to simmer. Raising children takes oodles of patience. Waiting at the doctor's office takes patience. Being stuck in traffic? Patience. Waiting to close on a new home because the lender has to scrutinize every little financial detail of your life? EXTRA patience. And yes, waiting to hear back from the agents who have your full manuscript also takes patience.
So what do we do during all this?
*We read everything we can on craft, parenting, etc.
*We blog to support each other and remind each other to be patient
*We take advantage of excessive waiting room times by catching up with emails or jotting story ideas
*We use drive time to listen to books on CD or red lights to catch up on a friend's blog post via email
*We makes lists of everything we're going to do to our new home if and when the final closing day comes (which in my case, it has, and I'm the brand new owner of a beautiful two-story pool home! YAY!) we go shopping!
*We move on to the next project, because waiting to hear back on our fulls and partials that are under review is agonizing. But I've learned to start the next story, because there's always hope the new one will be THE one.
I wonder if there ever comes a day when a person has truly grasped patience. Unless you're a monk in Tibet, I can't see how it's possible in today's environment. We're like monsters running out of time and scrambling to get more of it by rushing around. No time to wait! Hurry hurry hurry! Gosh, it's maddening.
Couple of links I'd like to share that have nothing to do with patience but are worth having a peek at:
Alex J Cavanaugh has an excellent opportunity for an insecure writer's support group, geniusly called Insecure Writer's Support Group. Sign up and join the blog hop for insecure writers who need fellow writers to lean on. Hey, we all do sometimes. Plus, Alex is like one of the nicest bloggers around and if you don't already know him, you're gonna want to.
Also, just read this Writer's Digest post on character development and it full on rocks the house and gets your brain cranking.
So tell me, how do you learn patience? Do you, like me, try to make use of every last minute in the day? Any tricks on being patient that you'd like to share? Lay it on me ...